What To Do When Someone Teases You: A Guide to Handling Teasing Effectively
Teasing can really hurt, right? Whether it’s at school, work, or online, being teased can make you feel upset, embarrassed, or powerless. You might have been told to just ignore it, walk away, or tell an adult. But here’s the truth: those strategies don’t always work—and sometimes, they can even make things worse.
Why Don’t the Usual Strategies Work?
Ignoring teasing might seem like a good idea, but it can actually make you look weak to the teaser—and that might encourage more teasing. Walking away can also backfire because the teaser might follow you, prolonging the situation. Telling a teacher or adult is important if the teasing is severe, but sometimes the teaser might retaliate, or the problem may not get fully resolved. Worst of all, when you react emotionally, you’re giving the teaser exactly what they want—a reaction.
So, What Does the Teaser Really Want?
Teasers want a reaction. They want to see you get upset or play along. They feed off your emotions, so the best thing you can do is deny them that satisfaction.
What Actually Works?
The key is to use short, simple comebacks that show you’re not bothered and that their teasing is silly. Examples include phrases like “Whatever,” “Yeah, and?” or “Is that supposed to be funny?” Saying these with a calm voice, combined with a casual eye roll or shoulder shrug, sends a clear message: you’re not interested in their game. After a few comebacks, you can walk away or turn away confidently.
Pro Tips:
Practice your comebacks so they sound bored, not angry.
Pick comebacks that don’t accidentally agree with the teaser.
These strategies work whether the teasing is mean or just playful banter.
Handling teasing well is a powerful skill that helps protect your confidence and keeps you in control of the situation. It’s about not giving the teaser the reaction they want, and instead, showing them that their words don’t affect you.
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